A New Year’s Solution to New Year’s Resolutions

          As the new year begins and 2013 comes to an end, I am reminded of the long time tradition of making New Year’s Resolutions.  For years, I have started the new year with high expectations, focusing on things I would like to do in the coming year, things I didn’t accomplish during the previous one.  Like starting with a clean slate, a chance to get things “right this time”, I make a list of To Do items, and off I go into the first few months of the new year, only to forget, drop off the bandwagon, or lose interest.  Needless to say, by about the end of February, my New Year’s resolutions are not thought of again …. until the end of the year when it’s time to make another one.

          This year I have a solution to my resolution dilemma.  As I consider my intentions for the coming year, I am certain that for them to “stick”, I must first “feel” into them.  In the past, I have set New Year’s resolutions based on what I would like to experience.  I didn’t accomplish something in the previous year, so I wanted to make it happen in the next.  Wanting to make it happen, means I don’t have it.  And if this is what I state as my truth, “putting it out there” like that, I will in essence, create more of the same…. something I don’t have.

          As I determine a resolution for the coming year, I want to conjure up feelings of already having it – deep, glowing, sensations I might feel if I already had the thing I wanted to create.  Without them, the fuel of my intention will not spark and ignite.  Experiencing feelings of already having the things I wish to enjoy is the secret to powerful creating.

          But I cannot always touch those kinds of feelings.  I have for brief moments; I have held on to the glimpses of them, but maintaining those fire-in-the-belly kinds of feelings can be difficult … even though my intention to do so is strong.

          This year, I’m going to focus on the feelings of my intentions by seeing things differently.  Instead  of looking ahead at the new year to come, I’m going to look back on 2013 and in gratitude recreate the experience of the major events, the people who graced my life, and my accomplishments.  As I open myself to feel gratitude for things I’ve already experienced, I will be able to feel them more deeply, maintain them for longer periods of time, and transfer them to future experiences.

          Today, I feel love for my friends and family.  I delight as I remember traveling internationally.  I am blessed to have a career where I touch young minds and souls, and  I am thankful for the other sources of income I have created to enhance my life.  Too, I am grateful for what I have learned about myself in 2013, even in the experience of sadness at the end of a personal relationship and friendship.

          Feeling into the details of my 2013 gratitude list, I am certain 2014 will bring even more joy because the energy of gratitude opens doors New Year’s resolutions could never open. It was a year well-lived, and I’m already thankful for what lies ahead.


From my heart to yours,